How To Stop Caring About People’s Opinion (+how to be bold)

As humans who live side by side, sometimes there are some people who give comments at everything we do, whoever we become, which sometimes can be offensive. But it's hard for us to stop them

You need to realize negative comments will come continuously, anytime, anywhere, and even from anyone. We can't control it. All we can do is control our emotions and be adapt to those comments.

But first, you must be able to distinguish between good and bad opinions. If you get criticism from your boss or parents that leads to your improvement and behavior, that's a different story. But if the opinion that you think is judging, this is the way you can stop caring about their opinion

1. Stop feeling like everyone is out to get you

I believe a lot of people still get afraid to go out alone to public places, eating alone at the cafe/resto or just to posting something on their social media. They were afraid because they thought people would look down judging them.

But NOW you have to stop this. Why? because you have to believe that not everyone out there would try to get you. But yeah, there might be still a few of them who would judge about what you do and how you look at the moment, yeah, they do, then what?

The fact that they will not be thinking about what you do every time. They won’t think about you until the end of the day. They won’t think about you when they go to bed or taking a pee. They have their own life and so you are.

If actually there is someone who acts like that, I think they’re the one who needs serious help.

And for some people, they would be minding their own business and seeing other people just like a human being who tries to live a life on their own.

— So from now just be confident in whatever you’re doing. If you think it’s a good thing and won’t harm anyone, then go on. Confidence is the key to everything. You got this!

2. Think so highly of yourself that negative comments don’t bother you.

If you see people go to you and say you’re fat, you’re weird, you’re not pretty enough and any other negative comments that they throw at you, I know you will get upset for a while.

But don’t get that control over you and hurt you in the end. Stop that feeling, right now! Try to think that all those negative comments won’t ever bother you. And all those comments mean nothing to you. So, just laugh about it. They've done nothing to you but hurting you.

If they’re saying you’re not pretty, doesn’t mean you’re not pretty. You are attractive in your own way. Think about your value, maybe you find that you’re smarter than them. Or you’re more mature than them. Be proud of yourself.

— The only one who knows about your value is you. You should know what you worth, what value you have, and prove them.

Ignore any hate or negative comments they tell to you because in the fact that they were just jealous of what you have.

3. Write down your strength as much as possible

Knowing the strengths and values ​​that you have, it will be your power to overcome any excessive opinion that people thrown at you.

Try to write a list of all your strengths and values ​in your journal, diary, or anywhere you like. Then say everything you list to yourself, repeatedly. Turn that list become your mantra to remind you that you are precious, you are special. Practice it to yourself regularly, or whenever someone’s opinion knocks you on the floor.

I promise you will be able to handle all your emotions later. You’re no longer care about other’s opinions about you because you already have a strong and positive mindset in yours.

“The moment you stop caring is the day you start living” — Harry Styles